If you’re having problems at home or in the workplace it seems that for some, going straight to a law court is the obvious and easy solution. However, there are so many other options available to us nowadays that this notion is simply a waste of time and money. Mediation services are increasingly being used throughout all walks of life. Neighbourly disputes take up valuable time in the courts as well as being hugely expensive to all involved. These disputes can stem from very small issues but they end up escalating and becoming something much more than they are. It can be difficult to see solutions to problems when you are directly involved, which is where third party independent mediators come in to play.
Disputes between neighbours can vary and will often range from loud noise complaints, to abusive language. No matter how small the argument may seem, it doesn’t mean that a mediator cannot be of use to you. In fact, it is better in the long run to seek help from a mediator early on in the argument, in order to save your relationship before it is too damaged. These kinds of mediators can help you solve your disputes without the need for any kind of legal involvement. It isn’t that they will attempt to find a winner and a loser within the argument, but that instead they will help you talk to each other in a reasoned manner. Discussion is welcomed and encouraged whereas blame and conflict is not. Sometimes if an argument has been ongoing, then those involved tend to dig up things from the past. Holding onto grudges will not help anybody move forward, it will only hold those involved back. A mediator can help you and your neighbour to let go of these past problems and work towards a civil and healthy relationship. We all know what it’s like to be locked in a battle with someone. Often it can seem difficult to let go of the conflict as we don’t know what our relationship would be like if we were not arguing. Hopefully by the end of your session with a mediator you will be able to redefine your relationship and work towards a better future. If you’re having problems with neighbours then seeking mediation help might be a good idea. Some council’s even offer it as a free service, run by trained volunteers. Mediation can also help with personal family relationships and relationships within the workplace. The skills you learn from sessions can be invaluable in all walks of life. You may even consider taking a course to learn more about mediation, or decide to become a mediator yourself in order to help others.